I present as female at support group functions and Pilgrim Church every time I'm there.  In fact, I'd be embarrassed to show up any other way.   Occasionally at home, I wear a skirt.  Now, the question of being 'in role' can be taken in different ways.  It's not just dressing, but using another voice & mannerisms.  It can also just be viewed as being my self, which I feel much more free to be now that everyone at work knows (I need to add a page on how that is going).  If you've seen me at all in the last 6 months, you've noticed my hair growing longer and even styled a bit more feminine.  I grow my nails out & take care of them & use clear polish.  My legs have been shaved since last Fall.  So I'm already changing, but trying to do so in a way that there is no shocking moment when you see me.   It's not about wearing a ball gown, it's about being treated as the person I feel I am.  I can be female wearing pants & a shirt.  I actually have gone the last 8 days wearing women's clothing only.  No one seems to notice or care.   Ok, maybe it's somewhat gender neutral in appearance, but I feel so much better about myself, and it's just one more small step along the way.  I only wear the obvious stuff at group or church, or Union Station (skirts, dresses, feminine tops & shoes).   I don't expect to be doing anything significantly more than this until others are adjusted and Ok with it.  So I hope my appearance never catches you off guard.