Wow, I really appreciate the honesty in this question and I'm gratefull that you've tried to be understanding.  Some people would just write me off, so I'm glad you still want me in your life!

I'm also sorry that the 'counseling' words of others feels 'insensitive'.  I guess there could be a lot of sugar coating to the phrase 'just get used to it', but it boils down to the same theme, so I can understand it isn't helping any.  Your feelings are justifyable.

From  your question, I do hope it's just a matter of how fast things are going and not an issue of whether you can accept it at all.   That might be something we can work with easier.  I'd agree that it can be a bit unclear what being 'Full Time' or 'In Role' really means.  I'm always me, but how I look will be an evolution of sorts, and so far, I'd like to think I haven't pushed the envelope too far around those I have been with, I'm truely sorry I've made you uncomfortable.

My theory of small and gradual changes seemed to make sense, but really only at work would someone have been in a position to really see all this step by step approach.  Please understand that because of this, my appearance at work has reached the point, where it'd be better to present Leann all the time.  I do see that just because I go to work fully presenting, that other social situations may require the toned down look. 

I have tried to acknowledge that I need to adjust and go at different rates for people because not everyone sees me all the time.  I hope you can understand its not easy for me to shift gears and ensure I'm going at a rate everyone is comfortable with.  But I agree it's essential for me to be sensitive to those I want to keep in my life, just as much as you are trying to be sensitive to my situation.

I don't always have to wear forms, and can forego makeup.  True, some changes I cannot hide as they come.  Perhaps if we meet half way at your acceptance of new physical features, and I go without those cosmetic additions we can be comfortable with each other.

If you'd like to talk to me personally about this, I hope you won't feel to shy to contact me and express your feelings and we'll try to deal with your issues.